Proper spanking

So why do we spank?

First of all, it’s the easiest way to experiment for first-time BDSM play ; all you need is a hand, a buttock, and some momentum applied to said hand (also a sense of aim, because nobody likes being slapped in the tailbone). Secondly, it’s pretty risk-free; we can’t even venture to think of any serious injury that can be inflicted through a little love tap, with worst that can feasibly happen is you being on the receiving end of a ‘what the hell was that?’ look before getting back to the business at hand.

However to get down to the real reason behind spanking – aside from it feeling good – differs from person to person, because hey, we’re all mixed bags of nuts.

Some do it to feel dominant, while others accept it to feel dominated , and many just do it to add that extra bit of spice. It can be enjoyed by both partners – because it goes both ways – but only if proper spanking etiquette is followed, such as;

• Strikes should be focused on the lower, meatier part of the cheeks and upper thighs
• Follow every spank with a light caress of the slapped area
• Don’t slap hard enough to leave a hand imprint – unless permission is given
• Make sure to remove jewelry like rings and bracelets

Okay, so your rings are removed and you know where to aim, but what now? Well, you’re ready to begin, so have your spanking subject get in the proper spanking position;

• You (the spanker), sit on the bed with your knees over the side, just as you would a chair
• Your partner (the spankee) then lies stomach-down across your lap
• Otherwise, you can have them assume an all-fours position while you stand to the side

From either of these vantage points, you’ve got the perfect amount of room to get an arc with your good spankin’ arm, as well as enjoy the view.