How would you describe it?

Fucking. Screwing, boning, Making love—kidding, no one calls it ‘making love’ (not publicly, anyway). What’s your preferred nickname for penetration? I find that most of the words we use to describe sex have their own unique implications — and despite our aversion to some of them, they can and do occur simultaneously. What I mean by that is like, you can be getting fucked and making love (sorry) at the same time. I love sex and I love words, so I want to figure out what we talk about when we talk about fucking. Or boning. Or screwing. Hell even the Christian soccer mom fr the suburbs knows the difference between fucking and making love!



Let’s start with screwing. Screwing happens when you’re a 15-year-old boy. If you’re not a 15-year-old boy, you should not be screwing anyone. When I hear that word, I just envision a tiny little penis kid bragging to his friends about the terrible sex, that lasted all of about three minutes he just inflicted on another 15-year-old girl who will not know what a good lay is until her mid-20s. If you have plans to screw someone later, please cancel them.

In the same infantile camp as screwing is boning. Boning seems like the word you use when you’re talking about sex that doesn't involve you. Like, “You guys are totally gonna bone,” or “I caught Jonah and Michelle boning (in the kitchen, with the candlestick).” Boning can also be used to describe the imaginary sex you want your friends to think you’re having, for example, “I’ma bone that bitch.” (No, you’re not, and if you did she was not impressed.)



When you just “have sex,” you’re being an adult about things, but kind of a prickly, hard-ass adult. You’re on that matter-of-fact tip "You need some, you need to cum, you need some dick, the toys are not cutting it anymore sex".  After “having sex,” you’ll “take a shower” and “make breakfast,” no innuendo or frills necessary. I’m not hating, we all “have sex” on occasion, when we don’t feel like being precious about it. We’re just like, “I have a 6 p.m. slot open, in which we will have sex. Write it down, be prompt, don’t wear socks, make sure I cum and we only have an hour.”



Getting laid implies that you’re going to fuck someone you have no intention (or hope) of sleeping with again. You don’t get laid by your significant other, you get laid by some blonde rando guy wearing a Polo shirt who your post-college friends will shame you about for the rest of your natural born life. The sex will me marginally better than the screwing you did in High School, there is a slim change of actually having and orgasm but sometimes the laid orgasms are awesome, but you still will never take this man home to your parents most likely. People who ‘get laid’ are the grown-up version of the 15-year old's but hey there are plenty of women who like to get laid, just like me do. I become one of them after too many beers.

Fucking is by and large everyone’s favorite form of penetration. What women does not like to get really fucked sometimes?  It’s so versatile! Fucking is doggy-style, legs way back letting him shove it in balls deep. Fucking is spooning until there’s a hard dick entering you from behind, all sneaky-like. Fucking is fast or slow or both at the same fucking time (it’s that good!) Fucking is that moment right before you orgasm where everything fades to black and red (just me?) During any pleasurable sexual experience, a moment will come where you think to yourself, “This is fucking that pussy like man!” This is what sex — what fucking is all about. What I’m trying to say is thank god for fucking.



But if you want to be sweet about it, let’s talk about making love. Because as much as it nauseates us, making love is REAL. It’s looking down (or up) at the person you’re having sex with and being like, “I am so grateful for you right now, please continue to look into my eyes and get weird and emotional with me forever.” It's watching his face as he enjoys your body, it's feeling his body hold yours, it's feeling his cock, the ridges, the shaft enter you slow. Making love is a Boys II Men concert with a special appearance by Joe (you know that one song, “All The Things (Your Man Won’t Do)”? Of course you do. Because that’s what making love sounds like.) Look, I know making love is the most embarrassing way you could possibly describe sex, but that doesn't mean it’s not exactly what we want sometimes. It’s moving and I will reiterate that it is REAL. No shame in your making love game — just don’t go overboard and start crying in bed. There is not enough love in the world to make that cute.

Get out there and fuck, make love and get laid if you must.