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More bad books for women; Sugar anyone?

Since I am on books this month I thought I would also mention Sugar in My Bowl. I have written many accounts of some of the best sex I have had over he years but Poet, novelist, and essayist, the legendary Erica Jong—whose novel Fear of Flying opened eyes and broke down walls—offers us a provocative collection of essays about sex from some of the most respected female authors writing today. “Real Women Write about Real Sex” in Sugar in My Bowl, as such marquee names as Gail Collins, Eve Ensler, Daphne Merken, Anne Roiphe, Liz Smith, Naomi Wolf, and Jennifer Weiner, to name but a few, join together to speak openly about female desire—what provokes it and what satisfies it. In the free, unfettered spirit of The Bitch in the House, Sugar in My Bowl explores the bedroom lives of women with daring, wit, intelligence, and candor. I've tore through this book today. It's entertaining, revealing, and utterly delightful. I think everyone needs a reminder of the importance of sex in our l

Masterbate together watching him, him watching you

Masturbation does not have to just be a solo sexual activity, it can also be a means of sharing pleasure with your partner. Many people enjoy watching their partner masturbate, and gain pleasure in return from performing this activity for their partner. It can be a thrilling way to start the night, or something you can both do while pleasuring each other Masturbation also allows partners with different sex drives to feel satisfied within the relationship. You or your partner can masturbate separately, or with each other, to relieve sexual tension and attain sexual fulfillment when the other is unable/unwilling to engage in intercourse or sexual play. Another benefit of masturbating together is showing your partner what you like. Most people who masturbate don't have trouble getting themselves to climax, and it never hurts for a sexual partner to see some other techniques for pleasuring the other. Unfortunately, many individuals have trouble masturbating in front of their partner. T

Don't just jack him off

I talk all the time about how you should spice things up, try teasing your man sometimes by just rubbing your pussy on him your breasts or your whole ass to get him off. It does not always have to be about penetration.

Deep Sex, Try them all out

One of the risks of deep penetration is that a man's penis can hit his partner's cervix if he thrusts too hard or too deeply during sex. A position that makes this less likely to happen is the one where the woman lies flat on her belly, spreading her legs as wide as possible, while her man penetrates her as he lies on top of her. This position has the added advantage of allowing excellent G-spot stimulation during sex. There are a variety of other sex positions which allow the man to penetrate his partner deeply. Unfortunately, many of them depend on one or both of the couple being very flexible. In the first position shown below, the man may have to pull his partner towards him to ensure he gets into her vagina deeply. The second position shown is reputed to allow deep penetration, especially if the man lies back on the bed so that he is horizontal. The third picture shows a couple having sex in a position where deep penetration is certainly possible, but the actual depth to w

In Deep series, from behind

Rear entry positions are especially good for deep penetration when the woman is lying face down, with her buttocks raised. The Kama Sutra describes one way in which a couple can get into this position for sex: they start by kneeling with the woman sitting astride her man, facing away from him. Then she bends forward until he is able to enter her. She then stretches her legs backwards alongside his, resting her chest on her arms which are folded under her, while she raises her buttocks with pillows. The final position is something like this:

Legs wide and up

It doesn't need to be big for it to feel deep The man on top positions where the woman has her legs raised towards her chest can easily create a full filling and the further she raises her legs, the deeper he will be able to enter her. But even in the standard man on top position, where his partner lies on her back and places her feet on his calves, he can get pretty deep into her vagina and thrust vigorously.

Deep penetration series

Deep penetration can be very rewarding. Men are genetically programmed with the desire to ejaculate deep inside a woman's body (though sometimes it seems not to matter if that's in her vagina, anus or mouth!), and they really enjoy the positions that allow them to get as deeply into their partner's vagina as possible during sex. Women may crave deep penetration for the emotionally rewarding sensations it gives them - a sense of satisfaction that goes beyond the mere physical. For, with all positions that offer the possibility of deep penetration, there's the sense of being deeply connected to one's partner. And both sexes enjoy positions that offer deep penetration because they can feel very, very good! One challenge in all these deep-thrusting positions is that a man may come very quickly - maybe not too soon for his pleasure, but perhaps too soon for his partner, who may not have had enough physical stimulation to get her fully aroused or to allow her to reach org

Men can't eat pussy

One of the best articles and best books I have read in years on the subject of going down on a women in years! Let's face it most men do not know how to eat pussy, just like they don't know how to fuck. That is until we train them! I have always said that how to go down on a women is THE most important thing to teach a man and a man to learn. The author points out the very reason why when we all know "The average man can maintain genital thrusting for two and a half minutes before ejaculation". With my vast experience with men 2 minutes sounds about right and 15 minutes is rare. For me, many women and men I have always felt cunnilingus, GREAT cunnilingus is key to a happy women. New York Magazine recently had an article called, "Head Case How one man’s enduring obsession with pleasing women orally led to a mind-numbingly thorough how-to guide." In a town where everyone wants go down in history remembered for something, Ian Kerner wants to go down as the cham

Learning how to hit the G-Spot every time | By: Jenn Arnold-Wieber

Learning how to hit the G-Spot every time may sound like a tough task; but a few simple tips will have your partner squirming with pleasure. The G-Spot is a dense area of nerves located inside the front side of the vagina. Many people have heard that the G-Spot is hard to find, or may not really be as sensitive as it is hyped up to be. Here are a few tips to help you learn how to hit the G-Spot every time, and give your partner enormous pleasure. Here's how to get started. Remember if you are going to use toys I always recommend those with a slight curve on them or a typical realistic dildo with a well defined head. Most regular vibrators will not curve up enough to hit the G-Spot. Arousal- The easiest way to find the G-Spot is when a woman is very aroused. During arousal, the G-Spot becomes engorged with fluid, and becomes much larger. Therefore, the G-Spot becomes a lot easier to find and easier to stimulate after a woman is very aroused. So kiss her, touch her; do whatever it ta

We Vibe 3 - G Spot Toys

I recently worked with Redbook to test out several G-Spot specific toys for us women. Here are out testers opinions on the We-Vibe 3 The We-Vibes designed by a women for a women claim is to add clitoral and G-spot stimulation during sex. This can be used alone, but the real claim to fame is this can be used with your man also in you. Made of very high quality parts this is a well made toy Tester: This is an amazing toy it worked really well for me and my fiance. The front wall of my vagina is very sensitive so this was the perfect product for me. Unless I do a lot of work during sex or he does I usually don't get off and while the position that gets me there is pleasurable for me it doesn't do much for my partner and it's difficult for him to maintain the exact pressure for long periods of time for me to reach orgasm. With the we-vibe it doesn't matter the position I still get the stimulation that I need. When I first described it to my fiance, well he was a little skep

Deep Throat It "If he really wants you to deep throat him he better be on the smaller side"

Let's face it ladies men like us to suck cock, and deep throating or putting as much of that thing in our mouth. The other reality here ladies is that not all of us like doing this even if we can. The real test if a man is going to get some deep throat action is how than man is built! If he really wants you to deep throat him he better be on the smaller side. You are not going to get a cucumber down your throat and want to do it all the time. In my past as a prostitute men who where more than about 6" long didn't get deep throat from me no matter what they wanted to pay. However here are some techniques to try if you want to surprise your man every once in awhile even the big ones. The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move. While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – a
Let's face it ladies men like us to suck cock, and deep throating or putting as much of that thing in our mouth Oral sex is incredibly pleasurable for a guy. In fact, it can even be more pleasurable than penetration and intercourse! The best part about oral sex for a guy is feeling a hot, wet mouth all over him – especially when a woman takes his entire penis in her mouth in a deep throat move. While just about every guy loves deep throating, most girls do not. This is because deep throating often causes a woman to gag – and sometimes even vomit. The gag reflex, however, can be controlled with a little effort and some practice. Here’s how you can deep throat your lover without gagging. Learn How To Breathe Through Your Nose When giving a guy a blowjob, it’s important that you learn to breathe through your nose, even when you’re not deep throating. Even a small penis can block the airway from the mouth to the lungs, making it near impossible to breathe through your mouth during a bl

Asian Cowgirl

The Asian Cowgirl position is basically the same position as the regular Cowgirl with the girl on top except that the women spreads her legs wider lifting herself up off the man. This will allow longer strokes however care should be taken by the women in this position not to let smaller men slip out. Although not a big deal for the young and nimble, this position can be extremely difficult and tiring for many women, so their partner should offer some support using their hands whenever possible. A very popular twist to the regular Cowgirl position, it is definitely a must try for those that can!

Viennese Oyster

In the Viennese Oyster position the receiver lays on their back with their lower back and legs raised all the way up so that their ankles are crossed behind their own head. The exact end position will depend on the flexibility of the receiver. This position totally exposes the groin area to the giving partner who lays atop the receiver to perform. The giver moves up and down on the receiver to create friction. The giver needs to use their hands to support their own body weight so as not to crush the receiver. This position requires considerable flexibility on the part of the receiver and it cannot be (fully) achieved by most, but it is wonderfully "naughty" due to the feeling of being totally exposed. Those less flexible might try getting into the position, but stop at the point where the position starts to become uncomfortable. The giver can also help those less flexible by using their hands to support the receiver's thighs at mid-point. The giver or man must be aware of

Y Cowgirl

Y Cowgirl is called this for an obvious reasons. Similar to the Rodeo but with the women's legs spread wide open. Better for possible clitoral stimulation if the women should gyrate or be able to take all her man in and push on his pelvic bone. A great position to allow ample room to take larger men in, In a nutshell, the position is simply Cow Girl with the receiver facing the opposite way the receiver, legs spread with the woman controlling all the action. Although the woman no longer presents their breasts / chest to their partner for easy access, they provide great access and a great view to the receiver's rear end. Anal play is easy in this position or an additional finger in the woman vagina can be rewarding.

Reader Submits: They come in large sometimes

We have had several of our female readers after all this size talk tell us that there really are large ones out there sometimes. We had many submit gifs of there men that they are married to, dating or otherwise seeing that have larger members. It's funny months back we ran a pole asking if size mattered and most women said no it was more about the "whole package" as long as it was average and could get the job done. But a different poll asking women that are currently with well endowed men (8 inches or more) would they be ok being with an average or smaller man now, almost 80% said they would prefer to see someone at least he same size or close to there current well endowed partner. Guess it not "Once you go black you don't go back" but "Once you had big cock you don't want anything else" Warning objects on screen may be larger than you may have encountered before. Note: All owners of images have provided written permission to post on general

Stand & Carry

This is not for the faint of heart... or arms, legs or back - so if the man is middle-aged and not in great shape, they may want to skip this position. There are two common ways to get into the Stand & Carry position; the safer being to stand into it from a position like Delight, and the more difficult being to get into it from a standing position like the Dancer. Whichever method you choose, remember to stay within your limits as one joy-ride isn't worth the rest of your life with back problems or worse a broken penis! For even more fun try reversing this position entering from behind! Note: Depth can not be controlled very well in this position.

Push Back Doggy

This position is fun for an easy change on traditional doggy. When was the last time the women took charge in this position? Basically get your'self in the doggy position but the man does not move the woman does all the work. This is a great position to show your man how you like it and is an easy training position for both well endowed and small to average men. Have fun with this one!

10 Tips For Sensual Bondage

These 10 tips for sensual bondage will help you have a more enjoyable and pleasurable time. They are all great tips to follow to ensure you and your partner(s) experience bondage safely and in new fun ways. Consider these tips and you won't regret it. Safety Word: Even light S&M needs a safety word so you and your partner can help make sex safe. Keep in mind that even sensual bondage can get painful. Whether you choose "no" or "watermelon," find a word that will help both of you know when to stop. Light candles: Candles never fail at setting the mood as sensual. If you want a more romantic mood for your bondage play, you should definitely consider lighting candles. Try displaying them at safe distances from being knocked over by you and your partner. Be tender: Having a tender touch is a great start to making bondage sensual. Aggressive slapping/hitting usually transforms bondage as more hardcore. Therefore, use a soft and loving touch to make your bondage p

Black or White ones?

[caption id="" align="alignnone" width="300"] The white one is an average one. Just not hard yet[/caption] I get asked all the time if black men or white men have bigger members. We have talked about what it takes to get the job done but I have avoided answering the race size question until now. As long time readers know I do have some experience in this arena but I also brought in a guest blogger to help me out. So me first... The stereo types seem to be correct, Black, White, Asian, Middle Eastern and so on. YES, there I said it! Most black men where on average from what I saw bigger, but not by much. Asian men where smaller, whit men where average and Middle Eastern men also in the big category. Mexicans where also average. Most black men where not small, in fact I can only recall one small black man and most of the larger ones where black. but my biggest was white. I can think of many small white men, and most of the Asian men I would say where on the

The Turtle

The Turtle is similar to the Bassett Hound or Bulldog variation of Doggy Style, but higher from the floor with the woman laying down with her butt pushed up with legs together. Their partner kneels behind holding on to the floor. Because the receiver's rear is pushed right back penetration is still easy and deep! Getting in the correct formation will allow the man to almost balance himself in this position allowing for less strength. Not for beginners not as easy to do but and easy G-Spot pleasure position. Not a good position for well hung men but small to average can go deep!

Dress Sexy

Every woman loves to feel sexy and dressing sexy for your man has all of the benefits of making you feel gorgeous, coupled with all of the powerful benefits of making (& keeping) your man attracted to you. So with this in mind I want to show you how to dress sexy for YOUR man (not every man). Discover What He Thinks is “Sexy” Every man is different and finds different things attractive. I had always believed that men loved thongs and G-strings (thanks a bunch pornography!) and was surprised when I first discovered that my husband finds it really hot when I wear white cotton panties. With this in mind, it’s important to learn what your man finds sexy. Fortunately, there are some easy ways to do that. (The Sex Bucket List may also give you a few good ideas on what he may find sexy). ask questions blue button Ask Questions – Questions that are simple and pointed are best. Try to be playful and try not to make him feel pressured or on the spot. Here are some examples of questions to as