Story submitted by guest blogger: Just About 40 & Married
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The best dildo[/caption]
I have known Jane for more than 20 years so I have lived through some of her life adventures and she has shared a wealth of sexual knowledge with me. Over that last year or so Jane has also package after package of sex toys with me, and it wasn't meant to go this way.It was meant to be a fun assignment from Jane. A lot of women would dream of being asked to test drive every dildo and vibrator on the market and write about their experience. And while it wasn't something everyone would do, brag about—or even admit knowledge of—anytime soon, I loved the idea of covering the sex business from a first-person perspective without having to sell myself or make porn.
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The best orgasms[/caption]
Almost as an afterthought, it occurred to me that the research might also be informative. At first, unwrapping packages of dilso's and vibrators in every shape and size Jane sent me was exciting—unwrapping packages of anything is exciting!—and the fact that these anythings were also going to be getting me off only added to the thrill. Rabbits of every color imaginable, USB-powered bullets, G-spot stimulators, dildos complete with hair sometimes (I didn't need that), or ones that seemed just like the real thing. Really big ones and really small ones. Eggs with microscope attachments that allowed you to look inside as you came (surely appealing only to future gynecologists) and many others began piling up. And like any good researcher, I gave each a go. Some left me cold (especially the many dolphin-shaped ones—apparently, this is considered an erotic animal, although it did nothing for me), some caused awkward moments (take my advice: don’t ever try to carry on phone conversations about work while wearing a pair of vibrating panties) but none brought me as much pleasure as The Wand and Kiki Lu or Real Man Dildo.
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They look very real[/caption]
You know about the Hitachi Magic Wand, right? It's the one orgasm-expert Betty Dodson swears by, the medical-looking one that you might spy near someone's bed and hear them say it's only for those terrible kinks they get in their shoulder. Vibrator aficionados know better; they also recommend that you put a towel between it and you so that, I assume, you don't rub your clit off. If the wand can't make you come nothing can.
At first my affair with The Wand started slowly. But it what it gave me was the best orgasms of my life. Coming had become increasingly difficult over the years—kids, life, a not fully hard husband and age had conspired to make climaxing more something I sought out and got near rather than something I actually experienced. But the wand rubbed that elusiveness away. Suddenly I was coming—sometimes two and three times in a row—without even having to cook up any fantasies. Jane would send me new toys but thrown all the other vibrators out so that I could focus solely on my relationship with the wand. I'd also long since abandoned the towel. I thought there would be no other toy to come close until I received the Kiki Lu Real Man Dildo. It goes by two different names but is the same product Jane and I had discovered. It can also be had in several "colors depending on you like your dick. You also get to pick from three different sizes (5.5" long and 1.5" thick, 7.5" long and 2.5" thick and 10.5" long and 5" thick). Jane had sent me many lifelike dildo's over the last year and many I enjoyed but I have to admit - I am not normally a "Dildo" girl. I usually prefer vibrators and the sleeker, unrealistic looking toys. However, when I saw the DREAM DICK CYBERSKIN DILDO, I thought my opinion of dildos just might change - and it has. It truly is a dream of a dick... it looks and feels just like a huge, erect cock... and what woman doesn't want that?
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Almost real[/caption]
I have to warn you though, the big one is not for the faint of heart... this dildo is quite large.. but it is ooohhhh so nice! This beautiful replica of manhood even has veins that make it look so natural that you would swear there was a man attached to it! It long - for sure above average - and plenty of girth - which together makes for a very nice, filling toy!
The best feature - OK, not the "best" - but definitely a nice feature, is the suction cup. This provides you with options - you can use your new manly specimen lying down spread eagle OR you can slap it onto another substance - such as your bathtub ledge - and mount it for the ride of a lifetime! These truly looked like a lopped off member of a man - they look real!! Very real!! They felt even more real that the others and they had a trick up there sleeve. These dildos "moved" inside you and had a warming element in them. No more cold dildo's for this girl! Sure you can warm the others but this ones is ready to go out of the box!. They did not vibrate but the entire shaft would move in a circular motion and the shaft would stretch and contract forward and back like a real man.
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Long and thick and always ready[/caption]
when they first arrived I off course picked the large one to try out. Hey, I have had three kids and my husband is average sized so there is no reason for this women to play with anything else but the bigger one. And big it was! nearly 10 inches insertable and thick! I was immediately blown away with the feeling. I have always liked the full feeling these life like dido's provide over what my husband can not and like the The Wand I would cum over and over using these.
So now here I am in love with a Wand and a Dream Dick. My husband had always had a hard time getting me off, he was on the smaller side of average and I think I was just a difficult specimen anyways. I was a little afraid I might never be able to get back to my husbands dick, but according to Jamye Waxman, sex educator and the author of Getting Off: A Woman's Guide to Masturbation, "If you use a vibrator it might be more difficult, or take longer, to orgasm from other forms of stimulation like a hand or tongue, but if you stop using the vibrator then after a week or two all systems should be go. Also, you can downgrade the power of your vibe, so say you're using a Hitachi magic wand, switch to a pocket rocket to help regain some sensitivity." It was also suggested that the dildo would be the better alternative than the vibrator.
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Real Man Dildo[/caption]
Well, I neither wanted to downgrade nor go cold turkey, so instead I just tried to introduce my husband to the wand. His reaction varied from what appeared to be feigned enthusiasm (he wasn't going to be that guy who was actually threatened by a woman's vibrator!) to outright disdain at times. He claimed he wanted to watch me use it one night but seemed to go limp when he heard its lawnmower-like noise. Not even one minute into my pleasure I looked over to see his shriveled little cock staring at me. We did much better with the dildo but the few times I glanced seeing my large thick dildo next to my husband I could only help but wonder if he was intimidated. I know I would be, he looked even smaller next to it. Those first few times with an audience, the wand or dildo and I couldn't seem to get into our groove, anyway. During these threesomes, my orgasms, when they happened, tended to be wholly unsatisfying.
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Nothing like a real cock in you[/caption]
Then I entered a period where using the toys began to make me feel incredibly guilty. I'd orgasm only to be overwhelmed with the type of shame I would imagine a Catholic priest might have. I'd tell myself I had to quit or find another toy or get into a groove with my husband that left me sexually satisfied but instead, when the urge hit, I'd give the toys another ride and go through the same shame spiral again.
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The real thing[/caption]
Well, whether or not I thought of it as my love is debatable; all I know is that after a year with the wand, it was time to change. I reconnected with my husband, I laid off the daily routine of using the toys morning and night. Yes, as soon as he would leave for work I would get myself off and before he came home I would do it again - daily. Weekends I would hide and use them in - Finally though my journey back to the world of husbands cock-generated orgasms has been shockingly easy. It's re-introduced me to the pleasures of erotica, a lover's tongue and my own right hand. It's taught me that getting off isn't only about the orgasm but about what I'm thinking and feeling, climactic or not, before, during and after I come. It's about connecting throughout my entire body and not just my clitoris, about one time being plenty and another person a treat rather than an inconvenience. I now treat my husband to just using my body sometimes orgasm or not. The toys are still used but now with restraint and more often than not they are used together with him, and I learned it was never the toys that where the issue but it was me.
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The best dildo[/caption]I have known Jane for more than 20 years so I have lived through some of her life adventures and she has shared a wealth of sexual knowledge with me. Over that last year or so Jane has also package after package of sex toys with me, and it wasn't meant to go this way.It was meant to be a fun assignment from Jane. A lot of women would dream of being asked to test drive every dildo and vibrator on the market and write about their experience. And while it wasn't something everyone would do, brag about—or even admit knowledge of—anytime soon, I loved the idea of covering the sex business from a first-person perspective without having to sell myself or make porn.
[caption id="attachment_3209" align="alignnone" width="300"]
The best orgasms[/caption]Almost as an afterthought, it occurred to me that the research might also be informative. At first, unwrapping packages of dilso's and vibrators in every shape and size Jane sent me was exciting—unwrapping packages of anything is exciting!—and the fact that these anythings were also going to be getting me off only added to the thrill. Rabbits of every color imaginable, USB-powered bullets, G-spot stimulators, dildos complete with hair sometimes (I didn't need that), or ones that seemed just like the real thing. Really big ones and really small ones. Eggs with microscope attachments that allowed you to look inside as you came (surely appealing only to future gynecologists) and many others began piling up. And like any good researcher, I gave each a go. Some left me cold (especially the many dolphin-shaped ones—apparently, this is considered an erotic animal, although it did nothing for me), some caused awkward moments (take my advice: don’t ever try to carry on phone conversations about work while wearing a pair of vibrating panties) but none brought me as much pleasure as The Wand and Kiki Lu or Real Man Dildo.
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They look very real[/caption]You know about the Hitachi Magic Wand, right? It's the one orgasm-expert Betty Dodson swears by, the medical-looking one that you might spy near someone's bed and hear them say it's only for those terrible kinks they get in their shoulder. Vibrator aficionados know better; they also recommend that you put a towel between it and you so that, I assume, you don't rub your clit off. If the wand can't make you come nothing can.
At first my affair with The Wand started slowly. But it what it gave me was the best orgasms of my life. Coming had become increasingly difficult over the years—kids, life, a not fully hard husband and age had conspired to make climaxing more something I sought out and got near rather than something I actually experienced. But the wand rubbed that elusiveness away. Suddenly I was coming—sometimes two and three times in a row—without even having to cook up any fantasies. Jane would send me new toys but thrown all the other vibrators out so that I could focus solely on my relationship with the wand. I'd also long since abandoned the towel. I thought there would be no other toy to come close until I received the Kiki Lu Real Man Dildo. It goes by two different names but is the same product Jane and I had discovered. It can also be had in several "colors depending on you like your dick. You also get to pick from three different sizes (5.5" long and 1.5" thick, 7.5" long and 2.5" thick and 10.5" long and 5" thick). Jane had sent me many lifelike dildo's over the last year and many I enjoyed but I have to admit - I am not normally a "Dildo" girl. I usually prefer vibrators and the sleeker, unrealistic looking toys. However, when I saw the DREAM DICK CYBERSKIN DILDO, I thought my opinion of dildos just might change - and it has. It truly is a dream of a dick... it looks and feels just like a huge, erect cock... and what woman doesn't want that?
[caption id="attachment_3212" align="alignnone" width="300"]
Almost real[/caption]I have to warn you though, the big one is not for the faint of heart... this dildo is quite large.. but it is ooohhhh so nice! This beautiful replica of manhood even has veins that make it look so natural that you would swear there was a man attached to it! It long - for sure above average - and plenty of girth - which together makes for a very nice, filling toy!
The best feature - OK, not the "best" - but definitely a nice feature, is the suction cup. This provides you with options - you can use your new manly specimen lying down spread eagle OR you can slap it onto another substance - such as your bathtub ledge - and mount it for the ride of a lifetime! These truly looked like a lopped off member of a man - they look real!! Very real!! They felt even more real that the others and they had a trick up there sleeve. These dildos "moved" inside you and had a warming element in them. No more cold dildo's for this girl! Sure you can warm the others but this ones is ready to go out of the box!. They did not vibrate but the entire shaft would move in a circular motion and the shaft would stretch and contract forward and back like a real man.
[caption id="attachment_3213" align="alignnone" width="300"]
Long and thick and always ready[/caption]when they first arrived I off course picked the large one to try out. Hey, I have had three kids and my husband is average sized so there is no reason for this women to play with anything else but the bigger one. And big it was! nearly 10 inches insertable and thick! I was immediately blown away with the feeling. I have always liked the full feeling these life like dido's provide over what my husband can not and like the The Wand I would cum over and over using these.
So now here I am in love with a Wand and a Dream Dick. My husband had always had a hard time getting me off, he was on the smaller side of average and I think I was just a difficult specimen anyways. I was a little afraid I might never be able to get back to my husbands dick, but according to Jamye Waxman, sex educator and the author of Getting Off: A Woman's Guide to Masturbation, "If you use a vibrator it might be more difficult, or take longer, to orgasm from other forms of stimulation like a hand or tongue, but if you stop using the vibrator then after a week or two all systems should be go. Also, you can downgrade the power of your vibe, so say you're using a Hitachi magic wand, switch to a pocket rocket to help regain some sensitivity." It was also suggested that the dildo would be the better alternative than the vibrator.
[caption id="attachment_3214" align="alignnone" width="204"]
Real Man Dildo[/caption]Well, I neither wanted to downgrade nor go cold turkey, so instead I just tried to introduce my husband to the wand. His reaction varied from what appeared to be feigned enthusiasm (he wasn't going to be that guy who was actually threatened by a woman's vibrator!) to outright disdain at times. He claimed he wanted to watch me use it one night but seemed to go limp when he heard its lawnmower-like noise. Not even one minute into my pleasure I looked over to see his shriveled little cock staring at me. We did much better with the dildo but the few times I glanced seeing my large thick dildo next to my husband I could only help but wonder if he was intimidated. I know I would be, he looked even smaller next to it. Those first few times with an audience, the wand or dildo and I couldn't seem to get into our groove, anyway. During these threesomes, my orgasms, when they happened, tended to be wholly unsatisfying.
[caption id="attachment_3198" align="alignnone" width="300"]
Nothing like a real cock in you[/caption]Then I entered a period where using the toys began to make me feel incredibly guilty. I'd orgasm only to be overwhelmed with the type of shame I would imagine a Catholic priest might have. I'd tell myself I had to quit or find another toy or get into a groove with my husband that left me sexually satisfied but instead, when the urge hit, I'd give the toys another ride and go through the same shame spiral again.
[caption id="attachment_3199" align="alignnone" width="200"]
The real thing[/caption]Well, whether or not I thought of it as my love is debatable; all I know is that after a year with the wand, it was time to change. I reconnected with my husband, I laid off the daily routine of using the toys morning and night. Yes, as soon as he would leave for work I would get myself off and before he came home I would do it again - daily. Weekends I would hide and use them in - Finally though my journey back to the world of husbands cock-generated orgasms has been shockingly easy. It's re-introduced me to the pleasures of erotica, a lover's tongue and my own right hand. It's taught me that getting off isn't only about the orgasm but about what I'm thinking and feeling, climactic or not, before, during and after I come. It's about connecting throughout my entire body and not just my clitoris, about one time being plenty and another person a treat rather than an inconvenience. I now treat my husband to just using my body sometimes orgasm or not. The toys are still used but now with restraint and more often than not they are used together with him, and I learned it was never the toys that where the issue but it was me.
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