I have been asked what I look like many many times. As I have stated before I won't put my face out there, since I live a closet freak life now, but a respectable "normal" life but. So what do I look like? Im a bigger woman and I am not a young one anymore either. I have a big butt, big boobs and I am more soft that tight anywhere. I'm not tall, I color my hair to hide the grey, I sometimes don't shave my legs for a week now, I have been known to let my coochie grow hair if there is no man around to eat desert down there. My hair gets shorter the older I get since it's just easier to take care of. I still do my nails and toes but I will never be too old or fat to have sex.
You can see some teases of images of me over the years. I have my ass up here and my cleavage and boobs! Both are big. I am a pear shaped woman, and always have been. I am at my heaviest now but Im not telling my weight. I will share another photo of me showing that I am soft in the middle also. I am perfectly fine with who I am, sure I need to drop some weight, but I know men and they like all kinds of woman. I have no issues finding men that love me, want to have sex with me, make love to me or just fuck me! Besides I am a good lay and I give a hell of a blowjob ;)
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Big girls are fun to hug[/caption]I am certainly not everyone's cup of tea, and I'm not at all offended by that fact. I respect that attraction is a personal thing and that lots of guys just aren't into what I have to offer. That's ok with me, as long as they're not dicks about it. I have my own tastes and preferences as well, so I'm certainly not going to begrudge anyone else theirs.
If you have a mullet, are overly hairy, super tall or have a huge bushy mustache I'm probably not going to be attracted to you. You don't have to be a muscle man, but you can't be obese (men don't take as much hygiene care when they are bigger like women do, I'm not a sloppy big girl), I like dark eyes, dark hair and a rugged look not a metro one. If you're cock is at least average then it works for me, as I have stated before I lprefer them on the larger size but it's not my only gauge on a man. Look I rarely date men not in my age range so I am dealing with ED in men now, so size sometimes does not matter if it can't stay hard or get hard. I like a more traditional man, but I don't need Ward Cleaver either. And I'm allowed to feel that way, just as you are allowed to feel any way you wish about me. But don't do as one man did and send me a message out of the blue to tell me that my mere presence is disgusting and that I shouldn't subject "normal" people to the affront of having to see my photos and that I should just stick to the pretty women on my site - Here is my flabby stomach for you asshole! You go have your fun and let me have mine.
During the course of my life, I have had a lot of sex with a lot of different partners. And I'm not the least bit apologetic about that fact. Everyone involved has been a consenting adult, communication about expectations and boundaries was clear, and safeguarding my sexual health is always at the forefront of my mind. So why are you not sexy? Some have developed into lovely ongoing sexual friendships, and some were deliciously filthy little adventures where we never laid eyes on one another again after we parted ways. All were honest expressions of my current sexuality, and if you think men won't like or love you for who you are. Then you really need to read more of my blog and you need to get to understand men better and throw out the assholes quickly.
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Big girls can ride cock good[/caption]I've discovered that there are a few different categories that the men who are interested in me tend to fall into, based both on those who I have hooked up with and the many others I have talked with over the years.
One type that I have learned to pretty quickly recognize is the bucket-list guy. He has never been with a big woman, but wants to give it a go just to see what it's like and get a checkmark on his sexual bucket list. Innocent enough, I suppose, but not sufficiently fulfilling from my perspective for me to be bothered. These guys are often in their twenties and really like the fact that I am an older woman. Perhaps that would allow them to check off two boxes at once, I usually pass them by unless in the rare chance they fall in the overly hot group and might be a great fuck.
Much more toxic are the "attracted but ashamed" guys who chat me up on occasion. They are secretly really turned on by fat women, but are so uncomfortable with that fact that they would never dream of being seen in public with one. They are the living embodiment of the old joke, "What do a fat chick and a moped have in common? They're both fun to ride but you wouldn't want your friends to see you on one." I always pass them up even hot and well hung!
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Hold onto me while you fuck me hard[/caption]On the other end of the spectrum are the men who really do love large bodies to an extent that is creepy and objectifying. To them, I am not a person as much as an assembly of measurements and body parts. I don't encounter too many of those guys, but when I do I always feel like I need to take a shower after talking to them.
That is not to say that I think there is anything creepy about being attracted to my body type. Far from it. Probably my favorite guys are those who find me really, really physically attractive and have no problem owning that desire. Guys who love my softness. Guys who massage my belly, who grab handfuls of my ass, hold my hips when they are behind me, who bury themselves between my breasts. Guys who can't get enough of every last inch of me. To them, I am a revelation - an ample woman with no body shame who says sure, let's have sex with the lights on.
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Not just men are sexy when they get older[/caption]One such friend tells me that he long ago stopped approaching women he was attracted to in bars. He is a quite a conventionally attractive man, with an extremely muscular build, single, 35, has a good job, sexy face, nice over average cock and his preference is for women of my size. The most common reaction he would receive was one of anger from women who were so conditioned to believe in their own unattractiveness that they automatically assumed he was making fun of them. Lucky for me I am a confident sexy woman and I took a ride more than once on him, actually he is the bend over I want to fuck you hard kind of guy - he was a lot of fun.
When I began my journey of discovery years ago I could have been one of those women. I have been fat my whole adult life, and my body now is larger than the one I had when I was last single and not dating "around".
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Teasing[/caption]The last man I was dating you would think seeing us together you would assumed was very much out of my league. He was the absolute whole package -- smart, successful, a hell of a nice guy, not to mention extremely handsome with the gym-perfected body of a Greek god, perfect little ass, sexy eyes, very very well hung that one and a nice guy. The kind of guy who can pretty much have his pick of women. To my surprise, he was incredibly into me, and continues to be to this day even though he moved away.
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Sexy and Mature[/caption]We were lying in bed one night after some great sex. In fact I could still feel my stretched very plump and satisfied pussy and I asked him what it was that had attracted him to me in the first place. I knew I wasn't the type he always went for, so I was curious. He just looked at me and shrugged, smiled and said "confidence is sexy, you carry yourself sexy" Those words were a touchstone for me.
That friend belongs to the last group of guys, and I would say it is the largest one I encounter. Guys who are open minded to all kinds of sexiness. They don't have a physical "type" and have enjoyed women of a variety of shapes and sizes. To them, my sex appeal has more to do with my spirit of adventure and capacity for joyous abandon than the composition of my body.
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This woman knows how to have fun[/caption]I realize that my lifestyle is not for everyone, and I would never try to assert that it should be. I'm sure it won't even be the life for me forever. But at this moment, I am having a great time having exactly the kind of sex I want. And I'm doing it with the body I have right now. Because whatever I look like, I have a right to pursue pleasure without shame. And no matter what anyone else has been telling you, so do you.
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