Improve His Handiwork

Imagine having an orgasm whenever you and your guy get busy. Sounds pretty fabulous, right? But the reality is, most of us don't always make it to the O zone.  Only 18 percent of women said that they can reach orgasm all the time. But there is an easy way to boost your chances of pleasure peaking. All you need to do is start giving your guy more how-to help. "Bringing you to climax is a huge source of excitement for men," says Dennis Sugrue, PhD, president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, "but many of them aren't sure what women need in order to make that happen."

By showing and telling your guy where, how, and when to touch you, you're giving him the key knowledge he needs to take you over the edge — and leave you 100 percent satisfied. A man that has some good Handy work is all it takes, no penis required. But remember: Keep the lessons lusty and stay sensitive to his ego so your guy won't feel like he's back in eighth-grade sex-ed class. 

Manual stimulation is a surefire way to set off sparks — as long as your guy rubs you the right way. The next time you two are messing around, coyly lead his hand between your legs and whisper how good it feels there. It's crucial to give verbal rewards right from the get-go.

To get him started, place his nondominant hand (his favored mitt will be doing trickier maneuvering later) over your pubic mound. Then simply say, "I'd love it if you touched me like this..." and with your palm on top of his hand, make slow, steady circles over your clitoris and the surrounding area. Then let go of him so he can keep up the action on his own for a few minutes (groans of appreciation will encourage him) before making a different randy request. 

Once you're feeling super-aroused and ready for more intense interaction, ask him to keep rubbing your clitoris and help him slide some fingers from his other hand up the inner front wall of your vagina. If you direct him in a soft voice, the words won't sound clinical. Keep things sexy by letting out moans of ecstasy and moving your hips whenever you feel the urge. 

When I'm with a guy, I always tell him I love the way he touches me, even if it's not quite right. Then once his confidence is up, I'll say, 'Ooh...there' or 'Just a little higher' to get me going exactly how I want it. When his stroke is on target, say, "Yes! Just like that!" so he'll continue without changing the speed or pressure. The trick is to keep assuring him that he's making you feel incredible.

For some reason one of my favorite sex positions no one does just using your mans fingers. Try bending over in front of your man sometime on the floor. Have him seated on a chair or the couch. Tease him some and ask him to touch you. the amazing feeling of getting taken from behind while he just is using his fingers is amazing and a penis can not do what two hands can do!