If you have struggled with making your man last
longer in bed, you are not alone. Most men finish sex too quickly, a condition
also known as premature ejaculation. Such men are usually done in less than a
minute, which is not enough time for a woman to reach her orgasm, as women take
longer to reach their peak during sex. While this can be a frustrating
experience for a woman, the good news is that there are things that can be done
to fix the situation.
5. Use Medication
Normally, you would think that your
man does it out of selfishness. But the truth is that your man is actually
embarrassed and disappointed whenever he shoots too early. He may even start
avoiding sex, altogether, out of fear of disappointing you. So you are not the
only one who is unhappy about the situation. Your man is equally frustrated. It’s
amazing how men avoid sex because they know they will just finish too fast. The
other thing to remember is you need to have sex more often. If you not in the
sack enough this will always be a problem for your man, when he is horny and
you are not that’s the perfect time for the one minute man to get some time in…
And that is what makes this good
news for you. Because he is equally frustrated, he is therefore, open to
suggestions and solutions that you may bring to the table. Here are 5 of the
most effective solutions that have worked miracles for couples.
1.
Reassure Your Man
Whatever
solution you may choose to deal with the situation, it is likely to fail if you
do not take steps to understand and deal with the state of your man’s mind. As
mentioned earlier, you need to understand that while you may be frustrated by
the situation, he is equally devastated by each and every premature
ejaculation.
Showing him that you understand the
situation will help in reducing the pressure on his mind. Tell him, for
example, that you enjoy sex with him whether or not you reach orgasm. This will
ensure that that he keeps performing without any fear of disappointing you. And
as he becomes more confident, he is likely to start lasting longer out of his
own efforts.
While being relaxed and calm may be
enough to help some men to start lasting longer in bed, others will need more
than just a relaxed mind to overcome the challenge. However, just by putting
his mind at ease, a foundation is laid on which you can build longer lasting
solution with great success.
Whatever solution you may choose to
deal with the situation, it is likely to fail if you do not take steps to
understand and deal with the state of your man’s mind. As mentioned earlier,
you need to understand that while you may be frustrated by the situation, he is
equally devastated by each and every premature ejaculation.
Showing him that you understand the
situation will help in reducing the pressure on his mind. Tell him, for
example, that you enjoy sex with him whether or not you reach orgasm. This will
ensure that that he keeps performing without any fear of disappointing you. And
as he becomes more confident, he is likely to start lasting longer out of his
own efforts.
While being relaxed and calm may be
enough to help some men to start lasting longer in bed, others will need more
than just a relaxed mind to overcome the challenge. However, just by putting
his mind at ease, a foundation is laid on which you can build longer lasting
solution with great success.
2.
Try to Reach Orgasm Before Sex
One of the best techniques to make a
man last longer during sex is to have one of you, or even both of you, reach orgasm during
foreplay. Making you, come first before your man enters you helps the man to
have a relaxed mind and perform without any fear of coming before his woman as
you have already crossed that bridge.
How and what you need to do in order
for you to have an orgasm during foreplay differs from woman to woman. While
stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot are
common factors that work well for most women, different women prefer different
ways of doing this. Some women are very sensitive and prefer very gentle
stimulation of their genitals while others prefer firmer stimulation of their
genitals in order for them to reach orgasm. Still, others need genital
stimulation while at the same time having their nipples caressed or sucked in
order for them to reach orgasm. Sex toys, like vibrators may also be necessary
for some women.
Once you have reached your orgasm,
you can then let your man enter you and do his 1-minute act. Chances, though,
are that he may have already ejaculated during foreplay. If that is the case, a
second round may be necessary. This is likely to last longer as he has already
relieved some of the sexual pressure in his body. He is also under no fear of
reaching orgasm ahead of you as you already have done so.
That is not to say that you are not
entitled to more than one orgasm, but the fact is that men generally last
longer during second and subsequent rounds. That being the case, you have
higher chances of getting a second orgasm if not more.
Another way of making your man last
longer while making love is by making him ejaculate before he enters you. You
can do this by stimulating his penis with your
hand or using oral sex on him.
Once he has come, give him a few minutes to recover and then start caressing
his penis, gently, at first and then picking up the pace as his body starts to
respond and his penis starts getting erect again. By the time he is fully
erect, you are likely to be highly aroused yourself and it will not be long
before you reach orgasm during sex. If luck is on your side, you may even have
the amazing experience of reaching orgasm at the same time.
3.
Use Distraction and Disruption
Another way of making your man not
to come too quickly is by using distraction and disruption during sex.
Distraction is a process of having your man take his mind off sex whenever he
feels like he is coming close to ejaculating. Disruption requires physical
withdrawal of the penis during sex in order to prevent ejaculation.
In the case of distraction, you have
to monitor your man’s rhythm and breathing as you are having sex. Once you
notice a slight increase in his pace, ask him to stop any movement. You can
then start asking him about things that are unrelated to sex just to make him
stop thinking about sex. Keep the conversation going until you feel that he has
calmed down and he is breathing normally, again. You can then let him start
moving again, but be prepared to ask him to freeze, again, whenever you feel
him getting ahead of you. You can repeat this process for as long as is
necessary until you orgasm.
A man can also distract himself by
shifting his attention from sex whenever he feels like he is coming close to
ejaculating. To do this, the man will have to start thinking of something not
related to sex in order to distract himself. For example, he could start doing
mental calculations of some difficult mathematical problems until he feels that
he is less aroused. Depending on individuals, this can be done with or without
stopping any sexual movement.
Disruption, also known as Stop-Start
Technique, involves stopping and physically pulling out the penis order to
prevent an ejaculation. Using the same signs as in distraction, your man must
stop and withdraw, completely. You can then share a deep, lingering kiss while
waiting for him to calm down. You can repeat this as long as you feel that he
is getting ahead of you. Eventually, you will come and then he can follow.
The trick with distraction and
disruption is to make sure that your timing is perfect, that you do not let the
process of ejaculation reach a point of no return. Otherwise, once the process
of ejaculation has started, it is difficult to stop. This may be a bit
difficult for both of you at first but, as time goes by, you will both be able
to tell when your man is starting to move towards ejaculation. Once you have
figured it out, it will become easy for both of you to stop the process at the
right time.
4.
Squeeze Techniques
The squeeze technique involves
squeezing certain parts of the penis in order to reduce sensation as well as
using some muscles in the penis to stop the process of ejaculation in its
tracks.
Gently squeezing and holding the
penis at the base of its head has been known to reduce sensation in the penis
thereby preventing ejaculation. It is believed that this action works by
reducing blood flow in the penis reducing sexual arousal, in the process.
Gently squeezing and holding the shaft of the penis before your man enters you
can also help decrease his arousal and thereby make him last longer.
Another popular squeezing technique
involves stopping an ejaculation by squeezing muscles used to cut off the flow
of urine. However, this can only be successful if these muscles, known as
pelvic floor muscles are very strong. Fortunately, these muscles can be
strengthened through routine known as kegel exercises.
In order to do the exercises
properly a man needs to, first, locate the specific part of the pelvic floor
muscles responsible for cutting off urine flow. To locate them, a man must stop
his urine flow a number of times while lightly holding the base of shaft of his
penis just below the testicles. He should be able to feel the muscles contract
and relax as he holds and releases urine.
Once he has located the muscles he
can start doing kegel exercises by tightening and holding the muscles for 10
seconds and repeating a number of times per session. This exercise can be done
anywhere without anyone noticing anything, at all. Repeating the exercises 3
times or more a day will help strengthen the these muscles and your man will
soon be able to stop ejaculation at will, forcing the sperm back even when they
are already on their way!
While this is great news, you are
likely to face challenges as to how to tell your man to start doing kegel
exercises. Luckily for you, kegel exercises are
also necessary for women for purposes of toning vaginal muscles and tightening
the vaginal canal, men love tight vaginas and let's face it we like a fuller feeling. Additionally, having a woman use
her vagina muscles to squeeze a man’s penis is one of the most sensational
experiences that a man can ever get. So since this is a requirement for both of
you, the best way to get your man to start kegel exercise is by convincing him
that you would like to start doing the exercises and you would love it if he
would join you for support. Few men would refuse such an offer.
In that way, you can start doing the
exercise together. For example, you can let him put his finger into your vagina
and let him keep count as you squeeze and hold you vagina muscles. You can then
do the same to him by putting a finger on his kegel muscles and feel him
tighten and hold while you keep count.
Obviously, this may lead to sex but
it should not be allowed to disrupt the exercise, so please try to do it as a
reward after a successful Kegel exercise session. In fact, depending on how
strong-willed you are, as a couple, some couples actually insert the penis
inside the vagina and take turns doing the exercise.
5. Use Medication
The penis head is the
most sensitive part of the penis. Any loss or reduction in sexual sensation in
this area will make it difficult for a man to reach orgasm. It is for this
reason, that drugs called retardants have been developed to help reduce
sensation in the head of the penis in order to delay ejaculation.
Most retardants come in
the form of creams that can be applied, directly, to the head of the penis in
order to desensitise it. Some condoms also contain retardants that decrease
sensation in the head of the penis. Even without retardants, condoms, on their
own, also help in reducing sensation in the head of the penis, thereby helping
your man to last longer in bed. Additionally, some oral medications like Prozac
have also been known to help in slowing down or curing premature ejaculation.
Like with any drug,
please, make sure that you have tested your
retardant for reaction. Most drugs come with instructions on how
you can check whether or not you will react badly to the medication. Ask your
man to do the test before use. As a woman, always be on the look out for any
abnormal discharges or itching after using any type of condom or retardant
during sex.
There are different ways
of making your man last longer in bed. However, whatever option you choose,
remember that it is important to first start by putting your man’s mind at
ease. This technique on its own is enough to make him start lasting longer in
bed. Otherwise, adding any of the techniques above will surely help your man go
the distance and even more.
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