Sex toys can help more than orgasms

I recently learned about the benefits of sexy toys for women's health not just orgasms when I sat down with a  clinical professor of obstetric.

No seriously, they can help with hot flashes, night sweats, dryness, cramps, headaches, shifts in moods... women suffering from menopause are well aware of many of these symptoms. But one of the more embarrassing symptoms is vaginal dryness.

"Just like when women first get their periods, menopause is a big life change," said Dr. Mary , a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at New York University School of Medicine. "The lack of estrogen in the body decreases blood flow to the pelvic region. As a result, this can cause vaginal dryness and vaginal atrophy, or a weakening of the muscle tone in the pelvic area that can lead to sexual dysfunction and painful sex."

Vaginal dryness is a common complaint for women during and after menopause. To treat the irritating and embarrassing problem, doctors usually prescribe topical estrogen creams and gels that can be applied to the vagina for lubrication. But there is a more natural solution.

How can a vibrator help, does a dildo do the same?

Vibrators improve reproductive and pelvic health help by stimulating pelvic blood flow, which increases vaginal moisture and boosts sexual response, all of which making sex with or with a partner) more enjoyable. Like any muscle, the vagina is best kept healthy with regular exercise -- it’s the “use it, or lose it” mentality. Deterioration is particularly common as more middle-age or older women find themselves in situations where they aren't sexually active, single, divorced, widowed or aren't having regular sex with partners. Basically when our pussy is ticked it sets off a whole host of good things for our bodies.

A dildo can also help massage the inner walls but for blood flow issues a vibrator may be better. Although it has been proven that women who rarely have sex can actually experience a break down of the inner vaginal walls. In other words you have to work that pussy to keep it in shape!

Therapeutically, frequent vibrator use can prevent and ward off conditions such as painful vaginal dryness and atrophy. Within a month, women should notice a difference (even past menopause).

Dr. Mary says that she always talk to her patients about their sex life -- with or without a partner -- during exams. Let’s say I have a post-menopausal patient who is experiencing a lot of vaginal dryness and is not sexually active. I’ll recommend she try a vibrator or a dildo that has some girth to it to massage her inner walls, along with lubricant or with estrogen, if she’s comfortable.

During the follow up visit, I’ve noticed patients will frequently tell me they don’t need the estrogen as much because increased activity via [a toy] provides more moisture. While vibrators can be used with or without estrogen, we work to find the best combination to keep women healthy and happy.



I have women come in with sever neck and head pain or hot flash headaches. You can prescribe medicine but sometimes more sex can help or just the use of toys. the chemical release a women experiences during intercourse or simulated intercourse can eliminate many aches and pains.

I asked how women she has treated responded to this treatment.

"It’s been a very positive response so far. At least half of women I speak with are comfortable using vibrators or dildos. Of course I always work within a patient’s comfort zone, but my main goal as their doctor is to provide a variety of treatment options. The reality is, vibrators and dildos are a great, no-side effect solution to an issue that millions of women suffer from. My goal is to educate women that sex toys aren't something to be embarrassed about -- not only are they fun, but they also help women stay comfortable and happy during uncomfortable stages in her life.

I recommend my patients use a vibrator or dildo three to four times a week if they can. Keep in mind this does not have to be an orgasm educing event each time nor does it have to take more than 10 or 15 minutes if you don't want. As Mae West said, “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” Also, I suggest patients use lubricants along with the vibrator or dildo and make sure that your toys are the body-safe product made of medical-grade silicone.